Yesterday I celebrated Mother’s Day as a “Single Mom” for the very first time.
I saw a lot of posts on social media about single moms and how it takes a Bad-ass mom, to be a dad too. The truth is, we don’t have to over compensate for the father not being present, there is no way under heaven you can be both mom and dad to your child. Accept this fact and be the best mother you can possibly be.
On the 14th of September 2009, I became a mother to a beautiful baby girl, which I named Jasmine. I was a 2nd Year Information Technology student back then and 19 years of age. I didn’t have a clue what I have gotten myself into… Motherhood is a life time commitment and a full time job. So on 14/09/2009 not only was a child born, but so was a mother.
I thank God for the support system Jaz and I have. It made me realize that there are many married women who are single moms, the husband/ father is present but there is no emotional or physical support, they don’t attend school meetings, sports games or spend quality time with the kids. So I may be single in my Relationship Status but not as a Mother…
Therefore, I refuse the title of “Single Mom”, because if I embrace it, I would be denying those who help me raise my little princess, the sacrifices they have made and the time and finances they have invested. And I am far too grateful to do that!
It takes a while for a first time mom to realize that your baby, the child you brought into this world is an actual person. Someone with likes and dislikes, someone who will grow up and have an opinion and a will of their own. Its our duty to prepare our children for their future, to teach them right from wrong and to trust that they will not stray from the lessons you have taught them. Our Parenting Styles may differ but I believe every mother’s wish is to see her child happy, and well taken care off, lacking nothing.
To my own mother, words fail to express what I feel for you. Proverbs 31:28 “Her children arise and call her blessed…” . I hope that one day Jasmine will be as proud to be my daughter, as I am to be yours!!
From the bottom of my heart I would like to thank every mommy reading this, for your selflessness, for your unconditional love and all the sacrifices you have made. I encourage you to keep on keeping on and continue to pray for your children, we are not always with them to protect them or their innocence.
From a Mother Heart xoxo